For a moment, just think of this...It is one of those random ordinary days, the birds are chirping sitting in the trees and the fan is whirring away merrily inside the room. You are going through your daily work the same you did yesterday and the day before. Suddenly, there comes a big package nicey wrapped and full of surprises in front of you.
You are bewildered, you are dumbfounded. How did the gift package make its way to you? Is it intended for you or does it belong to someone else? There is nobody around to unravel the mystery. You look around to spot someone and realise that yes, the gift is meant for you. You feel a little curious, a little elated and your heart starts pounding because you want to find out the contents of the gift box.
You cut the ribbon and open the box with nimble fingers. While you had been expecting to get just one gift, there were more than a dozen packed nicely inside the box. Now comes your time to feel dazed. How can someone do this, it is simply fantastic! The sender of the gift sure must have put his heart and soul into arranging the gifts and packing them together.
You start unwrapping the gifts one by one. Each gift brings a smile on your face, sets your heart aflutter. You feel on top of the world to know that someone cares so much that he spent days together hunting down things that you would like. Not even in your wildest dreams you would have thought someone make so much effort just for you. It is unbelievable, it is beyond ordinary. You simply love it.
So far so good! But hey, now that you have got your goodies and are riding the happiness wave sky high, how about letting the sender know how much you liked the gifts. Courtesy demands that you must atleast appreciate his wonderful gesture. You go out thanking people who have actually not done anything for you but fail to thank the guy who actually brought a smile on your face.
Now, whatever I have written above is not some imaginary story plot of mine but something that I have seen time and again, so much so that when it comes the time to gift somebody, I actually ask myself is it worth the effort.
The Magnetic Compass, Jonathan Livingstone Seagull, the Buddha Bar, the CD's/DVD's, memories etc - all got rusted and wasted. I guess I sometimes do way too much, I should hold back, not indulge so much on people.
I still don't understand why people are like this and so henceforth, I have decided that come what may, I am not going to go out of my way to make somebody's life special. Exceptions will always be there but then, one does feel bad when someone close does this to you.
8 comments:
Coochie,
Whatever has happened has happened.You tell me,Is it that important to thank someone you love time and again for things he has done for you??? I am talking about people who love you. Is your relationship with that person soo formal? There is no room for "thank you" n "sorry" in a relationship...be it any kind of relationship!....sometimes,it so happens that things don't work for you. circumstances become more important. You believe in considering others viewpoints.Then why don't you take it that way!
@ Above
I don't think we know each other but I have known Rajat for more than half my life. And since I know this crazy lil' dude with bright sparkling stars in his eyes, I couldn't help but notice how different he is from rest of the flock. Why, he even inspired me to change the way I think, write and do things and let me tell you that this has been one of the best changes to have happened in my life.
Shooting straight to the point, I am sorry but I don't agree with what you wrote just above this. If you read Rajat's post correctly, you will realise just how much it hurts when you go all out to pave a boulevard or avenue and then see it get bulldozed to pieces.
My gut feeling says that you are a girl. You believe in considering others viewpoints.Then why don't you take it that way! Elementary my dear, why don't you make use of the same logic? You expect him to understand everybody's viewpoint when practically nobody understands his!
Rajat makes a very strong statement at the end of his post and having known him for so many years, I can tell you he is not the kind to be taken for granted. You need to be creative, you need to be effervescent, you need to be bubbling over with life, strong headed, steel willed and gregariously outgoing to be with him. Otherwise, you would just never get to understand him.
And hey, don't take this as a glowing tribute to Rajat. I know what he was feeling when he wrote this post and I couldn't help but see you write something which doesn't do justice to what he stands for.
As for you Rajat, I will always be the crazy ol' gal even though I have given up IC engines for Booster Rockets. Change is Good buddy! XOXO
@ above
hey Liz,you may not be knowing me but i do know you.
yup!! u r rite...its jus wat i felt n u proved me wrong...thnx a lot.I strongly believe in "LIVE AND LET LIVE". I want everything to be fine but somewhere,deep in my heart, I am hurt too... I am hurt by whatever happened but someone has taught me to move on in life n forget things which hurt you. If you start living with it n keep harping on the same thing all your life, everything will get ruined. I don't want that 2 happen. I don't want to see Rajat that way.Never...
I am just asking him to move on in life n stop hurtin himself. Am i doin something which is not s'posd to be done? My way of tellin him all this may not be the right one but I never meant to hurt him.
@ Above
Hey there, I guess there is more to see than what meets the eye at the surface. Wait, I need to talk to him about this. I have no clue about what happened but those very very strong words indeed that you have used. Thats the only reason why I came back to answer to your post.
For the record, I nev er wanted to prove you wrong, all I wanted to do was to set things in the right perpective.
Live & Let Live. Nothing could have been better but having known Rajat all these years, I think he is one of those few chaps who actually does so. And I refuse to believe that things have been to contrary. I am not taking sides here but it is simply impossible for me to digest the fact that he could be anything other than this.
You said you are hurting from within. May I ask why? And plus, you said you want Rajat to move on. Well, move on from what and move on where?
I guess a lot has happened which I dont know and since I dont have the bare details, I would not want to comment over here. But hey, I would still advise you to apply jurisprudence and not act rashly. Its very easy to misunderstand him but trust me, the day you get to know him fully, nothing in life would be more easier and joyful.
Good luck my friend, Live & Let Live!
Alrite people,we seen some major action here lately, eh!
Lisandra!Been so long since I last saw you.Shall buzz you tonight (your daytime)!Hehehe!
@ Thread starter...
Hey,I totally agree with Lisandra on this.
My take on this matter is simple...just because you are not like "this" doesnt mean that you should start feeling bad when somebody does "that" for you.Are you getting me?I guess not.
Ok see...he did what he loves doing.He did a mistake..he shouldn't have sent you those gifts.Now,can you help it?He is a roamantic idealist and wouldnt worry about striking off stars from the night sky.The question is.....would you hold it against him for doing so?
Why dont you try & put yourself in his shoes....maybe you'll realise that he has been correct all this while.
In the end,I just got one question for you....he made you feel special,he made you happy.Why in Heavens sake are you then hell bent on destroying this wonderful status quo?
Appreciate if you would kindly throw some light on this.
@ Liz & Tanya
I have nothin to say or do now. He means the world to me but as you(Liz) pointed out, 'You need to be creative, you need to be effervescent, you need to be bubbling over with life, strong headed, steel willed and gregariously outgoing to be with him. Otherwise, you would just never get to understand him.
' , I was not the one to be with him, I guess! With due respect to both the ladies, I am not acting rash. I still have the same feelings for him and will keep on having them but everything has come to a standstill now...everything has collapsed...rather ruined! In Rajat's words,things are at the PNR.Mending it has become impossible. I don't know what to do now.
I ,sincerely, apologize for whatever has happend here. I never meant to hurt anyone's feelings. This is my last post here. I will, henceforth, not bother anybody...not even Rajat.
And for you Coochie, I don't want to force you... I will respect your decision...
J'Taime tu!
Hi All,
Loads of action here. I never thought it will turn up like this. I guess, I should have started the thread with what I felt and all that we spoke ova' telephone (me & Rajat) after reading this.
HEy Pilot, if I am correctly following the directions of MAGNETIC COMPASS / JONATHAN LININGSTONE SEAGULL & MORE, I am sorry. I never mean it....u kno me.
@ Lisandra and Tanya,
Hi Ladies,
My greetings to both of you.
Although, I donno know Rajat more closely than you, but I know him. And I understand what exactly he would be feeling while writing all this. I completely agree with your view, Liz. Not because you are saying it because thats practical. I'll do the same probably.
@ Pilot
I wish of spending
time with you,
but, life catches me in blue.
I wish of talking long,
but, the day has something else along.
I wish to go out
to observe the skies unbound,
to witness the magic,
to see some dreams charismatic.
But, something comes by way
the energies, the spry...
I know, I do not have
anything but, a regret.
But, all I want you
to know is..
I shall always strive to
turn the dice...
Love
The Incorrigible
@ Zephyr
Where r'ya? I know the pug is adorable and change is good but buddy, we gotta see you here upfront :)
@ Moon
Things have reached the PNR, is it? Not an issue as long as you know that the drop tanks carry enough juice in them to guarantee atleast a PFL for you. Go find a wide open space, point the nose downwards, ensure configuration set for force landing and grit your teeth while you get tossed on landing.
You need not apologise for anything, this is a free flowing conversation that we been having and everybody here is free to voice their opinion. And come on, you should know better than taking knee jerk actions as declaring that you would never visit this wonderful place again.
@ Tanya
Ya ya ya, right! Its daytime here right now and as its night time in your country I can bet that Ms Adorable must be into one of her nocturnal acts. Hahahaha!
@ ISRO
Dont tell me he calls you Incorrigible these days, does he?Hehehe!
That was such a sweet poem you wrote. Hmmm, wonder whats cooking back there in the 5.5 GMT zone :)
Umm....I just got one last thing to say - its easy to overlook and ignore those elements that make us happy. Be it life, career or whatever, don't ever take anything for granted. Listen to "Dont Speak" by "No Doubt" and you would understand what I am saying!
Hasta Luego!
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